I realize almost no one in the United States is talking about Brexit these days, but I've got a post that came to me as I was on vacation a few weeks ago. So casting caution and good sense aside, I decided to post this in the midst of the welter of news, info, tweaks, rants, and joyful exclamations surrounding the Democratic Nation Convention. And, in doing so, instead of getting all political, I'll keep this more personal.
The surprise of the Brexit vote occurred just as I was
starting my first day of vacation in Europe—a continent to which Britain
soon will not belong. As an American, the whole thing feels a bit distanced. I
mean, our country’s foundation was to separate from England. So generally,
independence sounds like a good thing to me and other Americans. (Incidentally, the U.S. also celebrated its Day of Independence--i.e., July 4th--while I was also on
vacation.) Separating. Being independent. It's catching on. I read that the Netherlands might be next by doing, yes,
“Nexit." And the Greeks with "Grexit"; France with "Frexit." Etc.
Does this lead to Perplexit (my term), the state of wondering why this is all happening? Put more directly, Should we find this move unusual?
In seeking to answer my own question, it struck me that the impulse for Brexit is so
common—when those around me bug me, why not just break the connection, stop
texting, or de-Friend them on Facebook? I, like James Taylor (and the Drifters
before him), want to go “up on a roof” and be by myself with the stars.
“And there, the world below can't bother me.”
Now of course, there are times when to separate is all well
and good. Times when we need our space and relationships that--as the current
saying goes, are “toxic"--that drain out our life and our health.
And yet. And yet, I wonder if we are not surprised—just like
the Brits who really didn’t want to leave the European Union—that our protest
actions are taken too seriously. That once we calm down, we find ourselves
alone, isolated and lonely.
In another context, a family member quoted Abraham
Lincoln—and the U.S. slogan—“divided we fall.” Both sources paraphrase Jesus,
who commented that “every city or house divided against itself will not stand" (Matthew 12:25). Those words, it seems to me, are worth recalling.
Maybe Britain can stand by itself. I'm not sure, and I'm not really not predicting.
But what I do know is that we as humans are prone to be deceived by the thought that we can make it on our own. In those moments, instead of pressing Exit, next time maybe should we try pressing Pause.